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“Your worth is determined by you, not the judgmental measuring cups of a fickle world.”
Katie St. Claire

Self-love and Self-care have both become quite popular in the circles of Self- Help. Not to be neglected, two words that are often used interchangeable to describe how we feel about ourselves, are  Self-worth and Self-value, they reflect how we look at our worth and how much we value ourselves.  To have Self-worth  means to value one’s self. Self-value is a behavioural response to how worthy you think you are. There’s not a huge difference between their meaning and they can both be used to generalize the concept of  how we see our selves and how we project ourselves to others.  People who often know a person’s worth tend to use it to their advantage, by exploiting that person’s abilities.  I’m not saying it doesn’t exists but rarely would you will find someone, whether it’s an employer, a partner or family who will value your self-worth and honor you for that.  If you do find people who hold you to the highest esteem, cherish them.

 

“If you don’t value yourself, no one will!” This quote rings true. If you cannot see the value in yourself or believe that you are worthy of whatever it is you’re looking to achieve, then no one else will. Your fan base will forever be a make up of people who use and abuse your talents to build their own dreams or boost their own worth. Some of you may have seen or read the story about the Hundred dollar bill. The Bill was stomped on, crushed, even torn in half, yet it maintained its value. Why? Because even damaged, its value is still recognized and respected. The same goes for a person. You can go through hell and back, so to speak.  You could come out of a bad relationship broken, worn down, but that does not diminish your value or worth as a person. Though you others may make you feel less valuable than you were going into the storm, you’re not.

Once you recognize your value and your self- worth, many things in your life will change as you become comfortable saying NO to anything or anyone that doesn’t support your worth you as a person. Be prepared, because there will be some who are going to label you as arrogant or even selfish. Some may say you’re both arrogant and selfish.

5 changes you’ll soon recognize once you begin accept your Self-worth and your Self-value

1. Asking for compensation for your time and work, regardless of the project, will always feel right and you will feel good walking away from ones that don’t. 

2. You won’t loose no sleep over rejecting any and everything that didn’t bring me joy or eat up too much of my time. 

3. There will be less of a problem saying no to people who didn’t value what you brought to the table, whether it’s in a relationship or family members who do not appreciate your time. 

4. Your life will became an open book because you’re able to be yourself in all relationships in your life.

5. You will find your voice! This will make it easier to speak up for yourself and articulate what you want and what really matters to YOU!! 


Understanding, loving and accepting YOU! Will take you to a level were you will never need validation from anyone and your self-worth will not depend on what you have or have not accomplished in your life. It won’t depend on people or any other external factor because will know that you you are enough.

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4 thoughts on “Recognising Your Self-Worth and Value

  1. Reblogged this on Tamara Kulish and commented:
    This. Is. So. True!

    These are lessons I struggled to learn, always waiting on others to fill me up, when I discovered it was actually my job to do!

    Having come out of abuse and criticism as a child and into my adulthood, my sense of self became connection people outside of myself, probably because my sense of self had been torn down from the outside.

    A HUGE shift for me was learning to take responsibility for building myself up. The big advantage I discovered? I could give myself permission to build myself up how I wished to, not needing to base it on anyone else’s ideas for me!!

    Blessings!
    Tamara

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    1. So sorry to hear about your turbulent upbringing. But happy that you were able to grow past what you’ve been through. xxx Love and light to you! Continue to stay strong and continue to grow.

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  2. You. Are. So. Right!

    These are lessons I struggled to learn, always waiting on others to fill me up, when I discovered it was actually my job to do!

    Having come out of abuse and criticism as a child and into my adulthood, my sense of self became connection people outside of myself, probably because my sense of self had been torn down from the outside.

    A HUGE shift for me was learning to take responsibility for building myself up. The big advantage I discovered? I could give myself permission to build myself up how I wished to, not needing to base it on anyone else’s ideas for me!!

    Blessings!
    Tamara

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